How Do You Want to Be Treated?

We tend to rise to the level of someone’s kind or unkind treatment towards us. If we’re treated with kindness, respect, and even understanding, we feel valuable and esteemed as though we have support for being our best to ourselves, to them, and in the world.

Conversely, if we’re treated with disrespect, failing to be listened to or understood, then we feel unimportant and unvaluable as though we aren’t worth someone’s effort to treat us well. And so we are involved in recovery, trying to regain our confidence, perhaps feeling low and ashamed because we weren’t treated well.respect

How can you receive the treatment you most want, need, and deserve?

  1. Recognize your need for being treated with respect, to be spoken to in respectful language and tone and especially when there’s conflict. 
  2. Speak up and lovingly inform someone when you feel that you aren’t being treated well. Let them know how you want to be treated. Use words like respect or kindness, honesty or fairness. This isn’t you being controlling or dominating another. This is you learning to validate your feelings and speaking up about them. By setting a kind tone you also invite a kind response. 
  3. Set a boundary for yourself so that if and when you don’t feel you’re being treated with kindness and respect, you will need to do one of two things: One, you’ll let them know and do it respectfully in a kind tone. And two, if they don’t awaken or care to change their treatment of you, you will give yourself permission to quietly excuse yourself. That’s because you know you’re worth being treated well. And also because you deserve to provide for yourself a place of refuge from affliction. That isn’t you huffing off in a fit of rage. That’s you, behaving with quiet dignity, collecting yourself, and appropriately showing self-respect. 
  4. Finally, now that you have become more sensitive to how you want to be treated and you are able to set a boundary around it, look for those people who are both capable and reliable about their consistent good treatment towards you. And surround yourself with only those people. It’s hard enough to be consistent in our own behavior or to expect others to do so. But if, at least, everyone you’re in contact with, is trying to do this, then you and your friends can make beautiful music together! And it’s a better world!

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What Percent of Your Life Do You Spend in Spirit World? And How Can You Increase It?

From my many years of healing experience, I can tell you that healing begins when you turn your thought towards Spirit World (i.e., Source, Spirit, angels, divine Allness, heaven, or whatever is your best word to describe the experience of God).

From that place, we can begin to drink in the wonders of holiness and begin remembering who we truly are, our divine origin and nature.

In fact, I’ve found that the more time I spend in Spirit World, the more powerful the outcomes. Even transformation occurs, often transforming the entire problem into a huge change for the better! And yet, all I did was turn my thought towards Spirit World for healing and allow a solution to come, while I continued to let my thought reside (as best I could) in Spirit. This is often referred to as dwelling in Spirit.

I have learned (and you can too) that Spirit World is a true refuge and a place where you can do much releasing of fears, stress, worries, anxieties, anguish, limitations, and frustrations, which we experience in mass doses in our 3D, physical lives on earth!

Here are graphs showing three different scenarios.  Each of these graphs reveals the amount of time you visit or reside in Spirit World (through prayer, meditation, reflection, contemplation, or any other spiritual practice).

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From the first graph to the third one, there is an enormous increase in your spiritual power on earth, just from going to Spirit. As you look at each graph, see which is your current pattern. What percent of your life do you spend in Spirit World? [Read more…]

Should You Give Up Hope Finding Your Soulmate?

The biggest question for those who are older than thirty five and single is more about whether or not to keep hope alive for finding your soulmate. (I know, an awful subject, but I’ve got to bring it up!)

And if you’ve been through a lot of loser dates, you may be thinking, “If I only knew that I would be facing the rest of my life without my soulmate, would I be better off knowing now so I wouldn’t go through decades of longing?”soul-mate_sm

My question is this, “Does it always have to be an ultimatum of soulmate – or no soulmate?” It’s as though we’re betting everything on love only coming in a soulmate package. Do you believe this is true? Can there be precious, adoring, deep, magnificent love outside the paradigm of the person being your soulmate?

I believe this is possible. It is my deepest belief that there is a wonderful somebody for each of us. I have no doubt about it. I’ve lived long enough to see, firsthand, wonderful relationships offering deep love and compatibility as life companions. They include laughter, sharing, caring, and even maturity (Let’s face it, happiness is limited and fragile when only one of you is mature). There’s a lot to be said for love coming in a package other than “soulmate” branded on it. And it’s a package worth opening! [Read more…]

Leaning Into Your Soul’s Light

There’s an evolution taking place right under your nose that’s rapidly accelerating. And it’s changing us all. Do you know about it? Are you leaning in?

Your soul’s evolution is on a trajectory forward. Only the soul knows where it’s going. Within us, there’s a deep yearning to be in our right place in the world. We long to be meaningful and to belong, to make the whole thing work. Your soul has the key. And your soul wants you to get it!gold-light

I’d like to share my story with you of my recent rapid evolution as a spiritual healer.

Until this year and for the past 30 years, I’ve taken calls from around the U.S. and some from other countries as well. My one hour sessions have been filled with light and healing. I’ve loved every minute of them. And I’ve seen some powerful transformations bringing much healing into people’s lives, relieving them of many complexities of suffering. This has been gratifying and deeply meaningful to me.

Almost 20 years ago, I read about a technique of spiritual healing that interested me a great deal. It was new and there was little information about it at the time. I read about it through Dr. Michael Newton’s book, “Journey of Souls.” [Read more…]

Dissolving the Veil of Love

What if you discovered a secret about love that revealed love is present and available to you at all times and you could experience as much love as you wanted?

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But in this discovery, it was also revealed to you that there’s an invisible veil which is hiding these facts from you? And if you could dissolve the veil, you would see and experience all the love you wanted?

And further, that it’s the invisible veil that has prevented you from reaching out for what’s possible in love because the veil has caused you to not believe that love is possible for you.

Let me just say it. Love is behind the veil.  [Read more…]

The Energy that Attracts Your Soul Mate

If you’re in a state of longing for love, it means you’re stuck.

Usually, when we go after something, we’re engaged in an energy that’s forward moving. This energy is loaded with ideas, hope, & intention. Then, after a while, when there’s little outcome, our energy wanes and we begin to wonder if we can really pull it off? Can we really attract to us what we want or need – like a soul mate? After all, we tried and tried. And nothing happened. Instead of attracting a soul mate, we wind up feeling unempowered and doubting.soulmate-soul-pair-couple-shirt_design

Here’s something that may turn your longing state into a state of powerful attraction.

Have you ever noticed the type of energy people carry around finding their soul mate?

Some people hold their energy in a loud place. They let people know they want a soul mate. They talk about it a lot. Their energy is mostly carried in an outward, in an excited & nervous state. It’s a heightened emotional state but not necessarily a heightened vibratory state. These people may be continually occupied with the notion of finding their soul mate, but it’s more like they’re spinning their wheels, marching in place, not advancing.

What’s wrong with this picture? It’s as though they believe that if they hope for and long for something hard enough and long enough that somehow this will bring it about. This is actually a state of helplessness, pitifully lacking power. You have a choice to advance from this place and to experience a new realm of what’s possible in love. [Read more…]

Do You Doubt Yourself?

Recently, when the subject of doubt came up, my inner talk was basically, “I don’t have any doubts. Doubts don’t pertain to me.”

Yet, as I contemplated the subject, I soon realized that I do have doubts.doubts

Here are some examples. Lately, I’ve been thinking, “I hope my spiritual practice is growing powerfully. I wonder if there’s something I’m missing?”

Or, “I doubt I can lose weight. The last few attempts failed.” And another example is, “I hope I’ll be strong enough emotionally and physically to be able to successfully care for my 93 and 94 year old parents as we go forward.”

And finally, “Someone close to me acted like they didn’t care about me. I wonder if I’m loveable?”

Wow! I have some big doubts brewing. Yet, as I thought more, I realized that doubts are fear based, calculating failure rates and insufficiencies.

What about you? What are your doubts? [Read more…]

Is Your Heart Safe to Open?

We’ve all experienced hurt and injustice from others. I’m quick to forgive and move on. Sometimes, however, I get stuck, as I have with a special person, who I stopped caring about some years ago. Without knowing why, I began to have a physical problem. An injured toe wouldn’t heal.cloud-heart

After xrays and consulting with two medical specialists, I felt stuck. The cartilage was gone. I was told that this is what professional athletes experience and to wait and see if the inflammation goes down. I waited for two years. From time to time I did offered myself healing prayer on it. Then recently, out of the blue, I received guidance to seek help from an acupuncturist.

I was astounded at what happened. After the first session, the symptoms changed. It was as though my toe had been dead and then come alive again. And I hadn’t realized it, but the entire area of missing cartilage had been closed off from feeling. Even more, I had a feeling that the healing was much deeper than my toe. [Read more…]

This Morning, God Visited Me

We all face doubts, fears, and deep insecurities about our lives.light on path

So do I.

Lying in the bed next to my fast asleep husband, the love of my life, I was in deep contemplation, listening for truth.

I decided to be open to the truth, whatever it was, and however it needed to reveal itself. It was a moment stripped of defenses and without the slightest bracing with fear. I gave up all need to control what was to happen. Just truth. [Read more…]

I Dare You to Give Yourself Permission!

Permission granting is powerful to unlock you from stuck positions.dare

For what have you given yourself permission? And perhaps, more importantly, for what have you not given yourself permission? Could this be what’s been holding you back?

For example, to what extent do you give yourself permission to do the following? It may help you to rate yourself between 1-10 as you read down the list. [Read more…]