How Do You Want to Be Treated?

We tend to rise to the level of someone’s kind or unkind treatment towards us. If we’re treated with kindness, respect, and even understanding, we feel valuable and esteemed as though we have support for being our best to ourselves, to them, and in the world.

Conversely, if we’re treated with disrespect, failing to be listened to or understood, then we feel unimportant and unvaluable as though we aren’t worth someone’s effort to treat us well. And so we are involved in recovery, trying to regain our confidence, perhaps feeling low and ashamed because we weren’t treated well.respect

How can you receive the treatment you most want, need, and deserve?

  1. Recognize your need for being treated with respect, to be spoken to in respectful language and tone and especially when there’s conflict. 
  2. Speak up and lovingly inform someone when you feel that you aren’t being treated well. Let them know how you want to be treated. Use words like respect or kindness, honesty or fairness. This isn’t you being controlling or dominating another. This is you learning to validate your feelings and speaking up about them. By setting a kind tone you also invite a kind response. 
  3. Set a boundary for yourself so that if and when you don’t feel you’re being treated with kindness and respect, you will need to do one of two things: One, you’ll let them know and do it respectfully in a kind tone. And two, if they don’t awaken or care to change their treatment of you, you will give yourself permission to quietly excuse yourself. That’s because you know you’re worth being treated well. And also because you deserve to provide for yourself a place of refuge from affliction. That isn’t you huffing off in a fit of rage. That’s you, behaving with quiet dignity, collecting yourself, and appropriately showing self-respect. 
  4. Finally, now that you have become more sensitive to how you want to be treated and you are able to set a boundary around it, look for those people who are both capable and reliable about their consistent good treatment towards you. And surround yourself with only those people. It’s hard enough to be consistent in our own behavior or to expect others to do so. But if, at least, everyone you’re in contact with, is trying to do this, then you and your friends can make beautiful music together! And it’s a better world!

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Spiritual Loneliness

A spiritual life can feel lonely.

Just about every person I know who is on a spiritual path longs for deep, relevant spiritual community. As spiritual devotees, we live very differently than most other people. And we seem to be scattered, not on every corner.SP-LHCover_flat-1-600

We’re a new and different breed than others because we have daily spiritual practices, read spiritual books, have strong spiritual interests, a passion for deep purpose & learning about who we really are & what is really going on, and participating at that authentic level.

It’s on our mind. We carry it in our heart. It lights our flame! It’s our ongoing reality! And we’re strong investigators! This is often mostly hidden from the world so we don’t feel known or identified by who we truly are, or at our depth. This can create a feeling of isolation and even loneliness.

What can you do about it? [Read more…]

Life Shifts & Finding Your Soulmate |Beca Lewis of “The Shift” Interviews Shannon Peck

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My Vision of a New World Coming

Until now, I haven’t had a reason (except hope) that a better world is coming. We’re consumed with the escalation of terrorism. Is this going to be our new norm? Or is a better reality even a possibility?

Right now, most of us are marinating in the news – and it’s bleak and scary.

I’d like to share with you my intuitive view of a different reality that I see  emerging.Rainbow_of_Hope_by_awesome_shrimp

Ever since my first past life regression, and in most of the 24 following regressions, I was shown a vision of a new world coming. It’s beautiful!

Recently, I woke up at 3:15 am and began to write about the new world vision that was unfolding & becoming more knowable to me.

There is no doubt in my mind, that we are birthing an entirely new world right now. You won’t find anything about it on the TV news, but it’s the most newsworthy item I know. When my guides first showed me the new world, I saw a family, whose members were very loving to each other. Then I saw this in a larger view where this would become our new culture. Then, I saw this is a model we would be experiencing on earth.

The vision continued to come in. I was shown that the new world includes 5 models of a new, emerging culture. These four models are: soul families, soul mates, soul businesses, soul communities, and soulful government. [Read more…]

The Impact of Past Life Soul Regressions on My Life

As an avid spiritual healer, I’m always searching for the depth of our true identity as a soul. Throughout decades, I’ve identified this search as a healing resource of enormous magnitude and transformation. I have been driven by a million questions & I’ve received answers that have evolved me to higher states of realization.

Over the years, this driving inner desire has placed me on a journey of in-depth states of exploration which create answers from the soul, coming out of such things as: prayer, meditation, yoga (with emphasis on ujjayi breathing) study of holy scriptures and texts, Buddhist insight practices, journaling, and self-reflection, to name a few.past life

Something new and big occurred to me this past year in my soul expansion. I discovered soul regressions and it has truly changed my life! I’m bursting to share it with you!

I first experienced a past life regression over a year ago. After experiencing it just once, I knew I needed many more. My desire rose sky high.  I gained insights into my soul from a higher place than I’d ever experienced.

Within just a couple months of this first past life experience, I discovered Dr. Linda Backman, a top psychologist who trains and certifies professionals to be past life and between lives soul regressionists.

Frankly, I have little interest in past lives. My only interest is in discovery of the soul, the true me, you, or us! Past life regression, however, was my passage for this discovery. It turned out to be fascinating!

But, here’s my dilemma. [Read more…]

Should You Give Up Hope Finding Your Soulmate?

The biggest question for those who are older than thirty five and single is more about whether or not to keep hope alive for finding your soulmate. (I know, an awful subject, but I’ve got to bring it up!)

And if you’ve been through a lot of loser dates, you may be thinking, “If I only knew that I would be facing the rest of my life without my soulmate, would I be better off knowing now so I wouldn’t go through decades of longing?”soul-mate_sm

My question is this, “Does it always have to be an ultimatum of soulmate – or no soulmate?” It’s as though we’re betting everything on love only coming in a soulmate package. Do you believe this is true? Can there be precious, adoring, deep, magnificent love outside the paradigm of the person being your soulmate?

I believe this is possible. It is my deepest belief that there is a wonderful somebody for each of us. I have no doubt about it. I’ve lived long enough to see, firsthand, wonderful relationships offering deep love and compatibility as life companions. They include laughter, sharing, caring, and even maturity (Let’s face it, happiness is limited and fragile when only one of you is mature). There’s a lot to be said for love coming in a package other than “soulmate” branded on it. And it’s a package worth opening! [Read more…]

What Can You Do About Regrets From the Past?

I have regrets about my past.

The other night, I awoke, thinking about my regrets. It felt bad. I got up out of bed and decided to face my regrets – for the first time – rather than wishing they’d go away and trying to stuff them down. The feeling of regret is one of the worst I know.Woman trying to sleep

I wondered if there was anything I could do.

Pulling out a pad and pin, I spent a long time with my regrets, listing them. Just what were these awful demons of my past?  I decided to face the major ones bothering me, one by one, even though there was nothing I could do about them that I knew of. After all, they were in my past and the regrets of my past were already committed. They were done. Right?

As I made my list and included the people involved, I was bombarded with self-judgments. I’d let myself down. I failed to act my best, failed to care enough for others. I felt ashamed and embarrassed and deeply haunted by the things I couldn’t change. “Why did I do those things?,” I anguished. Stupid me. [Read more…]

Dissolving the Veil of Love

What if you discovered a secret about love that revealed love is present and available to you at all times and you could experience as much love as you wanted?

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But in this discovery, it was also revealed to you that there’s an invisible veil which is hiding these facts from you? And if you could dissolve the veil, you would see and experience all the love you wanted?

And further, that it’s the invisible veil that has prevented you from reaching out for what’s possible in love because the veil has caused you to not believe that love is possible for you.

Let me just say it. Love is behind the veil.  [Read more…]

Do You Need a Hot Extraction – or a Grand Awakening?

In your close relationship, are you stuck? Need a quantum leap, in some new direction, in order to get yourself free?

In the Navy Seal team movie, “Act of Valor,” they showed the team’s impressively powerful ability to create a plan to free one of their people who was held captive in a remote jungle setting. They called it a “hot extraction.” It was impressive with ammunition, skills, brute strength, effective communication, equipment, & a lot of intelligence, midst great danger.

hot extractionIt made me think of some of the relationships I’ve had in my life where I probably held on too long & needed to be rescued – maybe by a hot extraction! It’s hard to evaluate a relationship during a time when feelings run high or while feeling strongly attached to the idea, “It’s just got to work!”

Like the Navy Seal team’s execution of a hot extraction, there are a lot of skills needed to know what to do and whether or not to extract yourself. Unlike the Navy Seal team, none of these skills, however, call for explosives, running, yelling, violence, or shooting someone.

But it does call for deep reflection and quiet thinking about what you really want. And whether you’re willing to settle for less than you want or deserve.

Sometimes we are stuck in “captivity relationships” because of loyalty or fear. Sometimes we just can’t let go. Other times, the love has left long ago but we’re still attached from our time invested together.

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The real question, perhaps, is to ask if a grand awakening is possible. That would be where one or both partners wakes up and resets the “it’s been god-awful together but maybe we can learn to be new with each other” button. What would that be like? What kind of plan or tools would you need in order to fulfill such a hope? And is it even possible?

First off, you need both parties to mutually and equally agree that they’re willing to work on it at the level of 100%. You need an open, honest, loving, calm discussion about the relationship. There needs to be safe space created to discuss the problems and examples of how and why you feel the way you do. This is where it can get explosive. [Read more…]

The Energy that Attracts Your Soul Mate

If you’re in a state of longing for love, it means you’re stuck.

Usually, when we go after something, we’re engaged in an energy that’s forward moving. This energy is loaded with ideas, hope, & intention. Then, after a while, when there’s little outcome, our energy wanes and we begin to wonder if we can really pull it off? Can we really attract to us what we want or need – like a soul mate? After all, we tried and tried. And nothing happened. Instead of attracting a soul mate, we wind up feeling unempowered and doubting.soulmate-soul-pair-couple-shirt_design

Here’s something that may turn your longing state into a state of powerful attraction.

Have you ever noticed the type of energy people carry around finding their soul mate?

Some people hold their energy in a loud place. They let people know they want a soul mate. They talk about it a lot. Their energy is mostly carried in an outward, in an excited & nervous state. It’s a heightened emotional state but not necessarily a heightened vibratory state. These people may be continually occupied with the notion of finding their soul mate, but it’s more like they’re spinning their wheels, marching in place, not advancing.

What’s wrong with this picture? It’s as though they believe that if they hope for and long for something hard enough and long enough that somehow this will bring it about. This is actually a state of helplessness, pitifully lacking power. You have a choice to advance from this place and to experience a new realm of what’s possible in love. [Read more…]